HA! You men are already leeching on women sexually, financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically. Shouldn’t be too hard for you to figure it out.
This is a comprehensive post about escorting! Under a readmore of course. Part 2 will include information about websites, how to cover your ass, pricing, payment, LLCs & DBAs, taxes, and how to up your game.
I. SETTING GOALS & EXAMINING WHY YOU WANT TO GET INTO IT
This should be your first step. What do you want to accomplish? Make sure that it isn’t out of desperation because you may put yourself in danger. If you are desperate, clear your mind. Escorting is fast money, but not all of it is good money. Please stay aware of that.
II. RESEARCH YOUR AREA
Is your area a place that you can market yourself in? Are there enough wealthy men looking to spend? If there are, you’re gold. While you’re at it, look up the legalities of escorting in your area. It’ll determine how you should operate. If you’re in the US, please educate yourself on the SESTA/FOSTA laws.
III. DECIDE HOW YOU WANT TO ESCORT/ADVERTISING
Do you want to be on a website (i.e. Eros), or freestyle? How would you go about either in your area? If you’re in a smaller city, freestyling in person may not be viable for you compared to someone in NYC. If you’re in a larger city, it may be easier for you to freestyle. More fish in the sea. It depends on your area and what you’re most comfortable with. If you will be advertising, will you use Twitter, Fetlife, Niteflirt, etc. as addons? If so, take extra precaution that your info can’t be tracked back. I don’t know much about Eros, so I’m not going to write a guide on how to use it. However, I will discuss freestyling.
Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, or anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. If you have a good bio and great pictures, you will be fine. Don’t mention money on the app, get his number and discuss money using your fake phone/fake number. If he doesn’t bite, goodbye. If he does, you have a client. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though (i.e. they look poor as shit. Always pictures in public settings like public bathrooms). Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford, and make it specific to neighborhood if you can.
If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays (when no specials are being run) to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. However, you can freestyle at places beyond bars and restaurants. Bookshops, coffee shops, anywhere in affluent areas with men of quality. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it.
You should also determine whether you’ll be doing incalls or outcalls.
IV. FIGURE OUT YOUR BRAND
How will you market yourself? This will be your genuine brand, the person your clients will see you as. Because of this, it should be something you can emulate easily. Are you a girl next door type? A vixen? An erudite? A mix of them? Whatever you choose, don’t stray from that lane. You should eat and breathe your persona whenever you are “on”. I recommend looking up the 13 Feminine Seduction Archetypes and seeing how you can play into yours. It’ll make snapping your persona “on” much easier. Also, you should pick a name based off of your brand. Ensure it’s not common, or taken by a popular escort. You should want your own shine.
Branding will not include all of your essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of you that your clients will most enjoy. To effectively brand, you have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research (again) on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re monied and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?
Figure it out.
V. PICTURES
This is based off of what you are trying to market yourself as. However, you should choose different settings and poses that will appeal to your ideal client. If you are just starting and don’t have money for professional pictures, find a sub that can do your heaux pictures if you dominate them (real shit, there are men like this) or use well-taken selfies (NOT OF YOUR FACE & HAVE THEM TASTEFULLY DONE). Something I am valuing in my pictures is color theory. I am marketing myself as a getaway, so I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks are my prime colors. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace. If you’re marketing yourself as the girl next door, your pictures will be vastly different from mine. However, you should always have uniform lingerie, some body makeup on, and some nice heels. It doesn’t have to be expensive as long as it’s good quality. Ensure that your clothed pictures get the same energy. PLEASE no spandex dresses or anything of the sort. The type of clients who’ll enjoy that will be low quality. If you’re not going with a hoetographer, learn how to blur your face out. Don’t pose in any reflections that would make blurring more tricky, and don’t pose in your apartment if you can help it. If so, do not give a big profile of the room out. If you know how to use Lightroom and Photoshop, all the better.
If you’re trying to be more high-end, do more clothing pictures than you do seductive/lingerie/naked pictures. Show the assets tastefully. Trust me. The more thought you put into your photos, the more your clients will pay.
VI. SAFETY
Do you have any friends that you can check in with while you’re with a client? If not, can you download apps that allow an app to check on you (i.e. Life360, bSafe, Kitestring) and call for help if you don’t check in on time? Do you have access to a taser, gun, knife, or pepper spray, and do you know how to use them? Have you taken a self defense class? Do you have a fake phone or fake number you can use? (Hoe emails can come later–use ProtonMail) If you’re doing an incall, have a trusted person with a key to your apartment just in case. Keep all personally identifiable information away from reach and locked up. Personally, I keep a separate apartment for incalls so that they don’t know where I live. If they do, they are one background check away from knowing your real first and last name. (I rented out this apartment through my LLC, so if they tried to backtrack into the apartment’s history, all they can find is my LLC name. That only links back to my DBA. My DBA can only be traced back to my name if they personally went to the county clerk’s office and illegally obtained it. You should work on being as anonymous as possible. I’ll talk about how to set one up later in the next post.)
If you’re doing an outcall, do a check of the entire place with weapon in hand to ensure that he is the only one in the room. Stay in large hotels with staff that’ll give a damn about you. Never go to his house, never do any drugs or get drunk. Have a “get out” plan and be able to formulate a quick one in your head. ALWAYS make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach.
VII. SCREENING
I felt that this deserves its own bulletpoint, although it does go hand in hand with safety. YOU MUST SCREEN. I don’t care if they’re a celebrity, you don’t know them. SCREEN. Ask for their first, middle, and last name, and their real number. You can ask for their home address, work address, anything or everything that will help you find info on them faster. Use Zabasearch, Stud or Dud, Whitepages, Google, Facebook, LinkedIn, PeopleFinders, LipstickAlley (if they’re a known hoe), Instagram, anything and everything that gives you their information. If you don’t have a good feeling about someone, TRUST IT. Don’t skimp on this step at all. If you find anything you don’t like, decline to see them.
This is the part of my guide that wanted to delete itself out of nowhere, so this is a rewrite. It’s under a readmore as well.
VIII. WEBSITES
Don’t host your site or servers in the US, that’s foolish with SESTA/FOSTA. You can research to find servers outside of the US that you can host your site on. If you don’t have the money for those yet, I would try a Wordpress or IMXPRS site until you can. Be aware that the site can be deleted at any time though. You also should avoid any American .___ names, like .com/.net. Keep it out of the US entirely. As for website design, you can either do it yourself or pay someone to do it. I paid someone to do it so that my ass would be ENTIRELY covered, and I’m very grateful for him. I’ll explain in the payment area.
Your website should be UX friendly! You know these niggas are old, don’t make them have to jump everywhere to find your prices and your pictures. Keep it simple but elegant. What you write on your site should be hands down amazing as well. You can pay someone to do it or do it yourself. I did mine myself because I’m a great writer. However, it should be written in an enticing and sultry way, no matter your persona. Leave it dreamy and pretty. What you add in it from there is up to you – like likes/dislikes, places you want to travel to, etc.
IX. COVERING YOUR ASS (FOR AMERICAN PROVIDERS)
Make it clear that you’re only selling your time, not ya pussy. Create disclaimers EVERYWHERE. Whenever you pay for something escort-related, use the Privacy app, Bitcoin, or a prepaid gift card. Use VPNs when you’re accessing these sites. Also, don’t ever mention money right with sex, even if it’s with a regular. Try not to incriminate yourself.
X. PRICING
When you’re starting out, you have to price yourself to the location. Unless you’re marketing to a specific area, or if you’re in a huge city, you’ll probably have to start out a bit lower. I would recommend starting lower (not low!) just to get a feel for escorting. Higher quality clients don’t do hourly bookings and I didn’t realize that until recently either. Big spenders want full GFE for hours on end. I have under 10 clients since I got rid of any dates under 5 hours, and I see 4 a month, but those 4 earn me on the upper end of xx,xxx a month + tips + gifts. So don’t worry about pricing high if you’re more experienced, as long as you have regulars that will pay. And they will if you feel like their friend. Trust me: don’t say you do GFE but only want them to fuck and leave. You need a good persona & to immerse yourself in it to earn this type of money.
XI. PAYMENT/HOW TO SET UP DBAs & LLCs
First, don’t accept payment from any apps unless you have a business profile set up (like Paypal Business). Cash app shows your real name on your clients’ bank statements and Venmo is a version of Paypal, meaning it’s equally as stupid. I like to keep everything uniform. There’s sort of no reason to have an LLC if you’re accepting large payments to your personal accounts. If anyone bothers to look, trust me: it won’t look right. Real merchants shouldn’t be accepting business payments through personal accounts.
If you have under 50k cash, I wouldn’t worry about everything else in this bulletpoint. You’ll be fine. We know how the cash depositing laws work (in the US) and how closely they watch for structuring. So, I created an LLC and a DBA. The LLC is the actual business, the DBA should be your escorting name. You’ll need both because a DBA without an LLC runs the risk of showing your real name on your clients’ bank statements. I made my LLC a matchmaking service. Whatever you choose should explain all male clients (like modeling, sexy art exhibit, etc etc). In my LLC, I have listed myself as an employee and I get paid from my heaux money twice a month directly to whatever account I choose. I use Gusto to set up direct deposit and to also pay payroll taxes. If you have a personal assistant or an independent contractor (web designer) that you need to regularly pay, put them on this payroll if they’re fine with you getting their personal info to do so.
All you need to do to pay yourself is to set up a business checking account. Before you do this, you need to register your DBA with your city before you can open one. Then you need to add your DBA under your LLC so that payments can be made out to either (which will be helpful if your client is trying to pay a check directly to your escort name). After this you’ll need to create a Tax ID number. Fill out Form SS-4 to do so. It’ll take a few weeks to process and then you’ll get one back. You’ll also need a state tax form to fill out. The bank you’re with will ask to see your LLC’s articles of incorporation, which you need a lawyer to help draw up. (By the way, you will need to renew some things every year/2 years/5 years depending on your state. Research!) Then you need to set up a merchant account in order to accept payment by debit/credit card. There are fees for this, but they honestly aren’t much in comparison to what I get paid. I use JP Morgan. If you want to swipe cards on sight, look into Stripe accounts. I don’t have one, but they look…interesting. I mentioned earlier that my web designer was amazing, and here’s why: I have a fake matchmaking website that I set up as extra proof that my shit is legit. I correlated all of my escorting prices with my matchmaking prices. When clients are to pay a deposit on my escorting website, the link will move to be a part of my matchmaking website. However, the link for payment on my matchmaking website is only accessible through the escorting website. That way, it appears as if payments are being made to my escorting website when they’re being made through my matchmaking website. It also drives traffic for the site so it doesn’t look like a total blank setup.
Because you have a business, you can expense shit that has to do with the business. You have a “modeling” business? You can write off makeup and high heels. As for my matchmaking business, I can expense food and transportation like crazy, along with rent for my heaux apartment. I use Divvy to keep track of it all, just to see how much Starbucks I’ve put on my business account honestly. Good to know where you are financially. I’m able to count the rent on my heaux apartment as an expense because I rent it directly through my LLC. LLCs count as separate entities legally, so you can rent/buy properties with it. All you have to do is tell the person you’re renting from that you’ll be paying for it through your LLC, and they should give you the appropriate paperwork. I do this so that no man can track this apartment back to my real name.
As for taxes, I file as a corporation so that my shit can get taxed as a separate taxpayer instead of me personally being liable for the LLC’s taxes. If you want to be personally liable, you’d do a Form 1040 and then Schedule C. I fill out Form 1120 for the corporation, and Form 1040 for me. You’ll want to list your title as whatever your cover LLC is. I will never advocate to just not pay taxes, because if your ass gets caught…
If you’re uncomfortable with doing any of this yourself, get a lawyer to help you set it all up. I had one help me because it’s a lot, lol.
XII. HOW TO UP YOUR GAME
The key to keeping steady clients if you’re doing GFE is to make it the best damn experience they’ve ever had. Make it special for them. It sounds cliche but they truly just want to feel cared about. If you feel like a girlfriend to them, they’ll keep coming back. So beyond sex, just talking with them, going places with them, massaging them, or even cooking for them (real shit, I knew a girl who did this) makes them feel like the money was worth it. I have regular and VIP prices. My VIP prices include things like a massage, penpal services, or any skill I have that would make them feel loved, appreciated, or catered to.
Regular prices are GFE of course, but not as specialized. If you have any similar skill put it out there!!! Make yourself truly unique. I even remember all the details they tell me so upon our next meet I can ask them about it. I’ve made some cookies and bought them gifts (under $100, it’s nothing compared to what they pay me tbh) personalized to their tastes. They like to feel like you’re present. Like a genuine girlfriend they can travel with and spoil without baggage. That’s where the big money comes from, and it’ll keep coming if you treat them like the love of your life when you’re together. Originality and how tight you run your branding ship are the keys to making yourself the best you can be. Embrace it.
this seriosuly disturbing and sad. girls and women really are being taught that this is somehow okay. bdsm has became one of the most normalized forms of abuse. it is so normalized to the point no one bats an eye when boys and men brag about wanting to degrade and harm girls and women during sex. it isn’t even considered abuse. fuck bdsm! fuck sexual abuse/violence! fuck all the boys and men that are loving the fact that they get to abuse girls and women in order to get their dick hard and face absolutely no consequences for it! fuck abusers!
Wow, one case and three whole women thinking it’s good, what a representative sample.
Each of those comments has thousands of likes. The video in question has over a million. A follow up video has 30K likes. Those people all agree.
happened to me countless times. People are FUCKED in the head.
I got my heart broken and I survived, I failed 3 courses in university and graduated, I got rejected in the very first job I applied for and got promoted yesterday, I went through hard times with my family but then two years later, we laughed our hearts out over lunch, The closest friends disappointed me several times but I made new friends and loved them with all my heart. I did it once, I can do it again.
